Saturday, July 18, 2009

Things I've Learned

Well, I've done it, I finally succumbed to the world of blogging. I start this venture not knowing if anyone will ever read anything I have to say, but who cares, right?? Writing is a great way to express one's self. I feel like I've finally discovered who I am at age 42...took me a while, but hey, some people never figure it out. I feel the need to share my new-found knowledge...hoping someone out there might gain something from it.

I feel like through my experiences, especially those of the past 6 years, I have learned some important life lessons. The first, that loving someone "not matter what" is not always the best thing. Love and common sense, or self preservation are completely different entities. I used to be hopelessly romantic, now I'm a bit more practical (although I still treasure my romantic side). I know I'm still capable of loving deeply, but I won't confuse love with lust, fear of the unknown, or being afraid to make changes. Through many female friendships, I have found that most women really think they can't live without a man. Our society has trained us that way. What little girl doesn't dream of growing up someday to meet the man of her dreams, get married, have children and live happily ever after? In almost every romantic comedy out there, the heroine always winds up with a man in the end to make her happy. Well, life doesn't always work out that way ladies, and unless you are open to an optional scenario, you may be searching for something you'll never find, all the while missing out on having a fabulous life. Now, don't get me wrong, true love does exist, and there are great couples out there, but having a husband or significant other is not the "end all" to a happy life.

Children, family, close friends, these are all relationships that can be just as fulfilling as one with a man can be. I have truly learned to embrace my life as it is now, and no longer grieve for what was lost. I've learned to really like myself, and enjoy my own company. I wish all the women out there who are so desperately searching for "the one" and don't feel complete, could know how I feel, and if they do find Mr. Right, it is just icing on the cake of an already wonderful life. The ulitimate life lesson I think I've learned, is be HAPPY, celebrate everyday, even the bad ones, there is always a new day of hope ahead. Happiness comes from within, not anything we can buy or be given, we choose our own, if you're life as it is now is keeping you from being happy, then you are missing out on something that only you can give yourself.

I wish everyone out there happiness and a life with purpose and fulfillment, regardlless of what that is for each of us. Only we know what truly makes us happy, it only takes looking within, with honesty and strength to find it.

Happy thoughts,


  1. You make me smile! So happy you have a place to spread your sunshine!

  2. We are loving our tomatoes too. Finally figured out the Google account.

  3. Amen to that, and welcome to blogland! I am looking forward to reading more. I found you recently via "Flikr" and I just love your home. Perhaps, you can post some pictures/details of your bathroom remodel soon?

    Congratulations to you and your daughter, I am a beginning elementary school teacher and despite my current student loan debts, I still have no regrets.


  4. Pamela,
    Thank you for your kind words, I strongly feel bloggin, flickr, these types of "avenues" are so good for women supporting other women, offering encouragement and hope. I am excited for you, teachers are amazing people, and many of my closest friends teach. I love working with them, you are a creative, loving, devoted group of people. I will post some more pics :)
    Have a wonderful day!

  5. Hello! I just read (well skimmed over) your recent blog posts and I think that you are truly an inspirational person. You have created a wonderful life for yourself even though you have had many hardships in your life. I don't know if I could carry on the way you have if my husband and I divorce. I have no job, no education...and already almost two children. How you manage to take the best moments in life and focus on them and make such a happy blog is beyond me. Keep it up, I look forward to reading more from you :)

  6. Lisa, I had no idea you were into blogging! This is great and I encourage you to keep it up. I think the world needs more positive, insightful blogs about/by women who "learned to really like myself, and enjoy my own company". While I love my husband and enjoy his company, I know that I can enjoy being by myself just as much. I'm so glad to see you writing and exploring, best to you!
    Anne de Lemos

  7. Thank you Anne, and I look forward to reading your blog soon??? I appreciate the nice comments, it really means a lot to me!


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